June 2022 61 www.bahrainthismonth.com opinion What to Do if You are an Affected Partner In most cases of infidelity, the wronged partner is generally the last to find out and almost always the most seriously hurt by the betrayal. Quantum physics teaches that there are only three elements of protection from anything in life: Time, Distance and Shielding. Use all three wisely and together in an ‘as and when’ required mix. The desire to hit back and expose the betrayer can be overwhelming - it may be advisable to be selective of who you discuss or tell your problem to - not everyone is your friend. Do not react until you have had time to consider ALL your options, so take at least a few days before you start to play your hand to deal your own ‘cards’. Remember, exposing yourself and your position openly to all and sundry may curtail and seriously limit your options later. The light will shine again, but you are going to need somebody to lean on. Just don’t lean on the wrong person! Seek some professional counselling from registered health professionals (not just a friend) to help you though this dark period. You may also look into online resources or check out Dr. Jordan Peterson’s views on ‘Betrayal. Indicators and Red Flags to Look Out for! - Unusual, sudden secrecy and over security of mobile phone/s and laptops - Denial of or reluctance to give or do almost anything affectionate for a partner - Constant criticism - Avoidance of intimacy - Volatility, irritability and arguing perpetually - Prolonged texting and phone use - Laughing and smiling to self while texting - Hidden mobile phone, sim or e-sim cards, bank account(s) or linked credit card(s) Perspectives of Bahrain Residents “The matter is not only sensitive, but also confusing. This type of immoral behaviour exists everywhere. No law, no religion can stop it! It has to do with each human being and his/her value system.”- ED a staunch advocate of women’s rights, female business leader and scholar in Bahrain. “As responsible law-abiding members of society, we all have a duty to do something when this type of immoral behaviour surfaces. Just like ostracising drink drivers in society and making them outcasts, we all must address this when it happens.” - Businessman, Bahrain “Many of the local pilots I have worked with here in the region tend to be sleazy and when it comes to immoral conduct, especially down route - they don’t even try to be truthful to their families.” - Commercial airline pilot ATPL. locally on an hourly basis while her husband was working away and lack of any real affection from the narcissistic Captain began taking its toll on the wide-eyed flight attendant. She quickly realised she was simply another notch on Majid’s belt of philandering and it wasn’t long before she confided in her close friend Rina – a clear cut sociopath who was as promiscuous as a desert dog herself. It was this “secret” recounted by Rina to other crew members many times, often whilst drunk, and to her ‘Party People’ Whatsapp group, that eventually got back to Majid’s wife, Noor. The determined wife embarked on an uncanny journey of discovery and unraveled all the sordid details of the protracted affair. What the philandering Majid had miscalculated in his theory that “everything that happens down route stays down route” was that STDs and affairs tend to follow you all the way home. With family lives shattered, marital trust destroyed, the children isolated, in-laws devastated and angry, the company was now wise to his philandering ways and all the cabin crew, and company employees were whispering about his activities while away from home or on an overnight, layover, DHD or positioning trip. This quickly took its toll, and so another illustrious flying career was doomed by the small brain of man with a moral compass the size of a pea. Author’s Note: This article is largely a work of creative non-fiction. The events described are based largely on true events, however, to protect the privacy of individuals, some names, characters, events and identifiable characteristics have been altered for literary effect. Any resemblance to actual living people or local personalities is unintentional and should not be misconstrued or taken as fact. The opinions and writing are directly attributable to the author and do not represent in any way the views of Red House Marketing, Bahrain This Month or any affiliated publications or the management, editor or owners. The magnetic attraction of the dark side is always there once that boundary has been broken and statistics generally show that ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’. Sleazy “Dive” Hotel Rooms Rented by The Hour “In most cases of relationship infidelity generally the wronged partner is the last to find out and almost always the most seriously hurt by the betrayal, treasonous deception, and immoral acts” “It’s a terrible, callous, cold-hearted, and cruel thing to do by anybody in a relationship...” The Bosphorous Coffee Shop in Dhaka
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